To start with, I would just like to make it clear that whatever aspect of your life you choose to look will have an impact on the rest of your life. This is often described as the ripple effect. So looking at your sensuality as one aspect of your life will automatically put the rest of your life under the microscope. Being sensual is a whole person whole woman journey, and is a journey that will have an extremely positive and profound impact on all areas of your life. It is up to you how far you want to go, and to set your own pace.
What being sensual wont do for you
Being, feeling, living, experiencing yourself as a sensual being does not mean that you will do the female equivalent of the Full Monty whilst you queue at the bank, nor will you end up rushing off to shag the local rugby team as an appetizer before you hit the town on a Friday night. Nor will you turn into a rubber-clad dominatrix stalking vulnerable men to drag back to your lair. I could go on, but I think you get the point.
So deep breath in, gently exhale, and relax back into your seat to continue reading.
Being sensual is about you being all of your true self, the best you can possibly be as a woman and a human being each and every day. Living and enjoying your life at its best.
You'll need a journal for this exercise. Use something that represents sensual to you, alternatively make it sensual. Get really creative and decorate it to express that. You could 'adapt' a photo of yourself or create a 'before' and 'after' of yourself. Magazines are great for pictures, and words, colour, glitter, anything you fancy. I use a journal covered with red velvet. A friend of mine bought it for me - she knows I'm a stationary junkie, and that I absolutely LOVE the colour red! It is the journal that epitomises sensual to me. So I invite you to play full out, and remember it will be a work in progress. This is all part of your journey. If you do not find what you are looking for make it, and yes, by all means cover the outside of the journal with fabric if that's what makes you feel good. It's your journal. Be open to it changing as you move along your journey.
My invitation to you
Find a place where you can be alone and won't be disturbed. Maybe close your eyes for a couple of minutes and allow yourself to be present. When you're ready open your eyes and we'll get started. Give yourself plenty of time, this is not an exam. It is an opportunity for you to begin learning about yourself.
Remember to use everything for your growth; whether it be healing on old hurt, or discovering something wonderful and new about yourself.
Ready to get started? Ok, let's begin.
1) So, what is sensual?
Write down the first thoughts that come into your head. Don't analyse any them, just simply write. It doesn't need to make any sense. It could simply be a picture in your mind, or a feeling in your body. Be aware of where in your body, how is it making you feel. What are you experiencing. Write it all down.
Is it that your are more sexy, more confident, more empowered, that you feel feminine, softer, grounded, wiser, funnier? Are you making different choices and decisions in your life? Are you steering your life in the direction you want to go?
What does it look like. How does it feel. What thoughts and beliefs do you have. How does your body feel. How do you feel about you.
Maybe sensual is about pampering yourself more. Maybe you would like to wear designer dresses and high heeled shoes with sparkling diamonds and long gloves. Perhaps you would like more self confidence. Unleash your imagination and creativity. Go wild.
How does the sensual 'you' dress? How does the sensual 'you' take care of her body? Does the sensual 'you' exercise? What does the sensual 'you' eat? What does the sensual 'you' do for fun?
Keep going until you have exhausted the list. Remember to give yourself permission to play full out. Write down absolutely everything that comes to mind, even it does feel a little uncomfortable, or strange.
2) If you were asked to name a woman who represents the epitome of sensuality to you who would that be?
What is it about them that represents 'sensuality' to you?
Remember, this is all about YOU. There is no right or wrong about this exercise, and none of it is set in stone. As a woman you are constantly changing and evolving. So you are likely to discover that the responses you have now change as you travel along your journey. Right now this is purely a starting point.
3) What do you feel you don't have in order to live life as a sensual, confident, feminine woman?
List everything for all of questions. Keep you going until you feel you've exhausted your list.
Now as you go about your life for the next few days simply observe whether the beliefs you have around YOU and your sensuality are true? Start to notice how you are feeling about yourself having 'outed' all this information about yourself. Question the beliefs you listed for item 3. Are they really true of you? Simply observe yourself.
This article has been adapted from my new eCourse - out soon!
