From The Chaise Longue Of A Sensual Goddess

Self Pleasuring for Todays Woman

I always feel the word masturbation sounds rather clinical.  It conjures up a vision of something very Ms Marple and a stout pair of walking shoes.  “Ok gels, assume the position, and masturbate at will!”.  I don’t know about you, but that really doesn’t feel particularly sensual, or intimate, or fun, whereas the thought of self-pleasuring hits the spot for me, that’s juicy!

Self-pleasuring is a wonderful means for a woman to experience sexual pleasure without a partner.  It is a delicious way for a woman to learn about her body, to enjoy exploring and discovering what she likes, and what makes her juicy.  Many women experience their most intense orgasms while self-pleasuring.

There are no right or wrong ways to experience pleasure.  Some women feel they should be able to orgasm, but it is important to remember that each woman's body is different so is her psychological makeup.  Some women can orgasm using a variety of ways whilst others find they only orgasm by using the same method each time.  Self-pleasuring is about pleasuring yourself and therefore about enjoying your body, and enjoying exploring your own body.

~         Create a space where you can completely relax, be alone, undisturbed, and can spend as much time as you want enjoying your experience.  Make use of cushions and throws, anything that adds to creating a sensual and relaxing space.  You may find this easier to do naked, but to begin with if it feels more comfortable then undress down to your underwear.  To begin with lay on your back, close your eyes and take a deep breathe, and gently exhale.  With each breathe surrender a little more.  When you are ready slowly bend your legs and then gently spread them apart.

~         There are various ways of doing this, for example, you may like to focus on an experience you have had, or elaborate on a favorite sexual fantasy.  Unleash your imagination, explore anything that heightens your excitement and juiciness.  Remember, fantasies are simply thoughts which you are in charge of so have it anyway you like it. 

~         Play with running your hands over your body, lingering on those areas of your body that feel a little more sensitive to touch than other areas. You may like to look at your body, in a mirror especially, if you are unfamiliar with them.  Caress the different parts of you to see what feels especially good. Explore your inner and outer labia, your clitoris, your vagina and your perineum.

~         Using one or two fingers, rhythmically stroke the different parts of your vulva, paying particular attention to your clitoris and labia.  Explore caressing your yoni with different types of pressure, speed and motion. Try placing a finger on either side of the clitoris and stroking up and down, or placing two fingers on the clitoral hood and gently rubbing in a circular motion.  Try different types of touch: stroke, tickle, knead, pinch, or lightly pull your genitals. Try using one or several fingers, the palm of your hand, even your knuckles.

~         Play with holding onto the sexual excitement.  Allow it to build up, and then reduce or stop the stimulation.  Really pay attention to how your body responds to each type of touch, you will discover which stroke feels best and when to pick up or slow down.  Remember to breathe deeply this helps release your sexual energy.  Allow your body and particularly your pelvis to rock as you would during intercourse.  Rhythmically clench and release your PC muscle.

~         If your hand gets tired, give yourself a rest, switch hands, or try a dildo. If you are on the brink of orgasm, but cannot quite get over the hump, try altering your breathing, or focusing on a really hot fantasy.  As you begin to orgasm, continue the stimulation through the orgasm. Lighten up on the stimulation during the first extremely sensitive moments but keep it going to enjoy those little pleasurable aftershocks. Your first orgasm may feel like a blip or a blast, but the more you do this, the more variety you will experience.

~         Don't worry if you don't come, the more you give yourself permission to pleasure yourself the more you relax over time and discover what really works for you.  This isn’t a contest.  There are no prizes.  This is simply about pleasure.  Your pleasure.  It couldn’t any easier than that.

Hair Detox - Week 6

The six weeks were up last week, in fact.  So how is my hair?  Well.  Still quite waxy, still detoxing, and still getting softer by the day :O)

 

One of my friends inspected it at the weekend, bearing in mind that I don't actually like having my hair touched unless I'm having it cut.  Her first reaction when she saw me was that it was looking great; the way I was wearing it, the colour, and the way the hair itself looked.  I'm still wearing it up at the moment, so its full fluffiness is kept under wraps most of the time.  Her first comment as she ran her fingers through it was how much softer it had become since I’d started washing it with water only (WO).  So.  No, the journey is not complete yet. 

 

 

Having delved a little deeper with my research I discovered a chat room called The Long Hair Community.  You may recall that my original research suggested between 4 to six weeks.   One WO washer wrote:

 

"Many people hit the worst hair problems at the 5th or 6th week, and then find it smooth sailing after that. It appears six or eight weeks is needed to find out if WO will work for you."

My hair is pretty much shoulder length and I've decided not to have it cut or trimmed until the detox has run its course.  At this rate it’ll be ready in time for Christmas.  Do watch out for my ‘Grand Hair Premier’ at the end of the year, darlings. 

Besides observing my hair evolve and progress through this waxy oily stage of its life.  The really fun part is that I get to treat myself to a variety of different clips and hair accessories.  Some are quite plain for the day time, and others for 'out with the girls time' have added sparkle!  Wearing my hair up is actually really low maintenance and to be honest I love it.  I've always loved those old black and white movies where the starlet has her hair neatly pinned up in a French Pleat, or Chignon.  This has to be one of the chicest and most sensual ways a woman can wear her hair, and for once I actually have enough hair to wear it that way and to wear it well, may I say.

Hair Detox - Week Five

As I come to the end of week five of the detox what I find most noticeable about my hair is how much softer it's feeling.� It is still quite waxy at the roots,� and has not reached a point where I feel like leaving it down or touching it as I used to BUT it is changing.� Whether the process will be complete by the end of week six ( 14 August) has yet to be seen.� Somehow, I doubt that the waxiness will miraculously disappear over the next week, but you never know.� I have played with leaving longer gaps between washing it, which I found has made a difference.�

Another observation has been that reverting back to using shampoo or any type of�conventional hair product now feels very much a thing of the past.�

Watch out for my post next week for the final part of my six-week hair detox.